Some days are just different of others. We keep them in our conscious and later on in our unconscious Mind. And sometimes still better, we keep them in our Heart. Shift happens.
I had such a day yesterday.
While driving with my youngest son and hubby to school, some nervousness raised up and unpleasant exchanges started in the car. The observer was telling me: Stop it, stop it, but somehow I just could not. Poison get out of my system and I was in judgmental non-accepting mood. While waiting for my students to get together, I get to the basic:" Love is not an emotion, it is a decision. " Also, I remembered that we are all different ...and I did the decision that I LOVE whatever happen.
As usual, I started my class with my "blabla", oh yes, Annet will love this one. So I opened randomly the book of Buddhist wisdom and...the quotation was:
REAL LOVE
Real love is not based on attachment.
LOVE DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE
The kind of love we advocate is the love you can have even for someone who has done harm to you. This kind of love is to be extended to all living beings , and it can be extended to all living beings.
Ah, from 160 pages i opened the book on those...and I get the message. We spent the class in opening of our hearts to the love, unconditional love.
What is so specific about UNCONDITIONAL love? You can believe or not, but when I checked my email in the car after yoga class, the message that popped out was :
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE by DIVYAA KUMAR
Paradoxically what we view as the penultimate love, Unconditional Love, does not refer to emotion as much as to a state of neutrality; its not about feelings but non judgment-it is best viewed thru the universal principle of free will- Creators Unconditional loving allowance for all within Creation! Thus unconditional love is not an unrealistic ideal about needing to feel the emotion we call ‘love’ towards everyone- t is simply a state of complete allowance -a complete all-embracing acceptance of everyone/everything - of all their qualities, desires, fears, life events – of their blueprints whatever they may be!
I could not describe it better. For me, Unconditional Love is the Universal love, above of the personal feeling, it is most about acceptance of what IS, how it IS, without judgment. for alls and all.
Why spend so much energy on judging others? What is that trigger us in the behavior of others so much that we freely agree to give the time (limited) of our life to create the negative energy and judge them? Is it not the projection of our own fears and feelings of being inadequate that push us to step on others?
JUDGMENT is first obstacle to Unconditional love, and it is coming from the lack of self-love. If we don t love ourselves, we will judge and put down others to feel better about us. Do you have always criticizing friend? So next time you listen to her while criticizing, pay attention if she is not just describing her own fears how she COULD be!
The second obstacle is TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY. Did you ever ask yourself: why this happen to me? Why always me? How he can do this to me? Oh yes, then you are taking things personally. But is it sure that He (she) did THIS to you? And what is exactly THIS? Do you know for sure that he meant to hurt you?
Simple example of perception: my husband is making me the TO-DO-LISTs. I take it personally as expression of his lack of trust to my abilities to handle the things on my own. My self esteem is in free fall every time I open his email with the new "adjustment". My ego scream: I m not your secretary! Grrrr!
His perception: I will make it easy to my wife. I should her how I care. I show her how I love her and our children and how secure I m able to make us.
In my perception, it is all about me ( "I"). In his perception it is all about him ("I")...so which "I" is really on stake??? ;)
So let s go back to the basics. I just have remember that it is not all about me, and be aware when I am in my own insecurity and my own fear. Then I can t really love unconditionally. But the shift is amazing. If I am aware enough to recognize the ego-mind play, I can immediately drop the fear, and stay in the "neutrality" as mention Divyaa's article. And from the state of neutrality, which is nothing else then Balance, I can reach easily Love. Unconditional or just Love, it does not really matter. The Balance, Peace and Harmony do!
Yesterday so , my all day just continued in the overwhelming sensation of Love. Because if we pay attention, we will find out that the only obstacle to it is ourselves. I was observing, with loving attention, how one piece after other of my protective wall is falling down trough the all day. I watched not the huge demonstrations of love in Bollywood/Hollywood style, but the sweetness of simple things. Take a meal together, do the shopping, talk, be silent, watch the movie...listen with loving attention. Be silent.
I realized on my very own the Rumi's quote that was dancing all afternoon in my head:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
I had such a day yesterday.
While driving with my youngest son and hubby to school, some nervousness raised up and unpleasant exchanges started in the car. The observer was telling me: Stop it, stop it, but somehow I just could not. Poison get out of my system and I was in judgmental non-accepting mood. While waiting for my students to get together, I get to the basic:" Love is not an emotion, it is a decision. " Also, I remembered that we are all different ...and I did the decision that I LOVE whatever happen.As usual, I started my class with my "blabla", oh yes, Annet will love this one. So I opened randomly the book of Buddhist wisdom and...the quotation was:
REAL LOVE
Real love is not based on attachment.
LOVE DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE
The kind of love we advocate is the love you can have even for someone who has done harm to you. This kind of love is to be extended to all living beings , and it can be extended to all living beings.
Ah, from 160 pages i opened the book on those...and I get the message. We spent the class in opening of our hearts to the love, unconditional love.
What is so specific about UNCONDITIONAL love? You can believe or not, but when I checked my email in the car after yoga class, the message that popped out was :
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE by DIVYAA KUMAR
Paradoxically what we view as the penultimate love, Unconditional Love, does not refer to emotion as much as to a state of neutrality; its not about feelings but non judgment-it is best viewed thru the universal principle of free will- Creators Unconditional loving allowance for all within Creation! Thus unconditional love is not an unrealistic ideal about needing to feel the emotion we call ‘love’ towards everyone- t is simply a state of complete allowance -a complete all-embracing acceptance of everyone/everything - of all their qualities, desires, fears, life events – of their blueprints whatever they may be!
I could not describe it better. For me, Unconditional Love is the Universal love, above of the personal feeling, it is most about acceptance of what IS, how it IS, without judgment. for alls and all.
Why spend so much energy on judging others? What is that trigger us in the behavior of others so much that we freely agree to give the time (limited) of our life to create the negative energy and judge them? Is it not the projection of our own fears and feelings of being inadequate that push us to step on others?
JUDGMENT is first obstacle to Unconditional love, and it is coming from the lack of self-love. If we don t love ourselves, we will judge and put down others to feel better about us. Do you have always criticizing friend? So next time you listen to her while criticizing, pay attention if she is not just describing her own fears how she COULD be!
The second obstacle is TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY. Did you ever ask yourself: why this happen to me? Why always me? How he can do this to me? Oh yes, then you are taking things personally. But is it sure that He (she) did THIS to you? And what is exactly THIS? Do you know for sure that he meant to hurt you?
Simple example of perception: my husband is making me the TO-DO-LISTs. I take it personally as expression of his lack of trust to my abilities to handle the things on my own. My self esteem is in free fall every time I open his email with the new "adjustment". My ego scream: I m not your secretary! Grrrr!
His perception: I will make it easy to my wife. I should her how I care. I show her how I love her and our children and how secure I m able to make us.
In my perception, it is all about me ( "I"). In his perception it is all about him ("I")...so which "I" is really on stake??? ;)
So let s go back to the basics. I just have remember that it is not all about me, and be aware when I am in my own insecurity and my own fear. Then I can t really love unconditionally. But the shift is amazing. If I am aware enough to recognize the ego-mind play, I can immediately drop the fear, and stay in the "neutrality" as mention Divyaa's article. And from the state of neutrality, which is nothing else then Balance, I can reach easily Love. Unconditional or just Love, it does not really matter. The Balance, Peace and Harmony do!
Yesterday so , my all day just continued in the overwhelming sensation of Love. Because if we pay attention, we will find out that the only obstacle to it is ourselves. I was observing, with loving attention, how one piece after other of my protective wall is falling down trough the all day. I watched not the huge demonstrations of love in Bollywood/Hollywood style, but the sweetness of simple things. Take a meal together, do the shopping, talk, be silent, watch the movie...listen with loving attention. Be silent.
I realized on my very own the Rumi's quote that was dancing all afternoon in my head:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
It feels good, it feels free, it feels sweet. It feels big, bigger and huge. And I feel lucky to be able to explore it. Step by step.
Very nice, thanks!!:-)xx
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